Love - and its own little love affair!

For most people, their teenage and early twenties is when they experience love for the first time. Their first relationship, their first romance. That everlasting soft corner for that ‘Special Someone’. While some find their ‘true’ love and ‘forever-and-always’ soul mate the first time itself, there are a whole lot who go through their first heart breaks, which is more often than not a lesson for them in many ways. And so, even though, their first ‘Experiment’ with love might have been more out of curiosity than anything else, their next step into the world of romance is often a more informed and aware one.

It really depends on the situations we’ve faced, how our outlook towards relationships and this ‘fad’ called love shapes up. Different people would take different turns in life after these first ‘incidents’. Some might not want to get into a relationship again, some may go on a guilt trip, a few might turn to self-pity and a long lasting session of ‘tears-on-the-pillow’ and, others may go for bitterness, revenge or blame. There might be just a handful who actually move on. And, I’m afraid I haven’t reached that stage yet.

But, it is actually the ‘second’ stint at this risky game which really shows what we’ve learnt from the previous one. I call it a risky game because like LIFE, there is no guarantee for love – No sure shot formula, no cheat codes. And, even though we may not have a choice when it comes to being born, falling in love is definitely a more conscious option. What is sad is that, sometimes people do not make the ‘right’ choices the second and the next and the next time too.. And, yet again, I fall into that category.

After I-don’t-know-how-many-hund

reds-and-thousands of years too, love is even now, such a vague term. It is STILL, beyond doubt, unexplainable. People are still as, or maybe more curious, now than ever, to find out the ‘secret’, the ‘right’ recipe to it. And in the process of trying to discover the surreptitious thing, lose their path somewhere down the road.. There are so many of us, blinded by this fantasy called love, trying to touch that bubble of ‘happily ever after’ and not make it burst. Trying so hard to unravel this unsolvable mystery that, in the process, we forget that the PERSON we are dreaming these dreams with is not the Mr./Ms.Right at all. We don’t realize that we are just trying to force a square peg into a round hole. And that never works. We know it sub-consciously! Oh yes, we do! We just find it more convenient to live with that flight of our imagination rather than the crude reality.

They say, when you are in love you do crazy things. I agree, a hundred percent. But, I think to get out of it, and ‘DEAL with the past’ you do crazier things :)..and there is no justification for it. Because, in the end – Love has its own love affair with insanity. And THIS, unlike the rest, is a bond forever. The ‘Fevicol-ka-mazboot-jod-ha

i’ type. Love and insanity, in whatever form, will always go hand-in-hand, no matter what. The only catch here is that our naïve hearts only see the ‘love’ effect, whereas insanity comes in as wild card entry mid way… :)

Hmm..I guess this is the only game in the world, that is bound by NO rules..